The Last Rabbit Hole
Have you ever found yourself in the rabbit hole of Google searches, Social Media frenzies, and the magical world of Pinterest pins?
Perhaps you’ve been trying to find the solution to feeling defeated, and like something has got to give!
You may find yourself ruminating:
“What the alternative is to everything I have already done?”
“Everything I do is excellent, but something is missing”
“I need a change, and I get that now.”
And you’ve been trying to find your slice of the “breakthrough pie.”
Which lead you to the self-help black hole. The one full of people telling you to “just try this thing,” because of how much it helped them.
And you followed the instructions to a tee, but still couldn’t find relief.
You became the queen/king of:
Lists of gratitude
Yoga 8 days a week
Have salt lamps going in all rooms
Have 7 stone bracelets, one for every chakra
And all of that was somehow supposed to be the pinnacle of self-help. Like somehow, becoming a flexible person with a list of things you want, but don’t have, and deep down thinking “this shit sucks!” is the way.
And despite searching, don’t you find yourself being more stressed out trying to find peace than ever before? I definitely did.
This is the self-help cycle that keeps on cycling.
And when you’re on that cycle, you feel defeated. The more you try, the more ashamed you feel for not succeeding yet.
I know this all so well, I have walked in those shoes for at least 500 miles. (Quite possibly 500 more).
The fact is, we aren't born with the tools to handle the ever-changing society we live in. And the ones you tried above don’t actually work for most people.
The truth is that our automatic reactions are all genius. You are not broken.
Whether they are healthy mechanisms or not, we find ways to keep ourselves safe from emotional distraught. And I'll let you in on a secret, it's ok!
Your patterns served you a purpose, and they got you to where you are today. (If it feels right and you're not in an important meeting, stand up and give yourself a round of applause. You are still alive!)
Now, are you ready to make some sustainable change?
Are you ready to live free from the chains of emotional strain?
Well, let's get started with some info on how this can be your discovery of a lifetime.
What I do is different. And I invite your scepticism because if you told me years ago that working with someone like me would have changed everything, I would have questioned your sanity.
My promise to you is to be there for you every step of your journey. My goal is to help you grow from your struggles, heal from your pain, and move forward to where you want to be in your life.
Sustainable change is possible.
Not ready yet?
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Emotional Success Coach & EFT Practitioner
As a kid, I knew I’d be a mountain climbing, broadway dancing, brain surgeon. Not sure how I’d fit it all in my schedule, but I was convinced that’s what I’d do.
But like many others, dreams and creativity died.
Instead, I started life in haste as if I knew, I had work to do.
I had to get pain, lessons and healing out of the way quick.
All while singing Broadway hits, quietly and to myself.
It seemed that there was always a perfectly written character for me to play along the way.
“She’s imperfect, but she tries
She is good, but she lies
She is hard on herself
She is broken and won’t ask for help.”
I became a young single mom, and worked in the serving industry, as a $5 therapist. Pour a shot, collect the cash, listen to the sorrow and hand out two cents worth of advice. It was an early glimmer of a future aligned with my purpose of helping others.
But that comes later. First, more work to be done.
I still needed to learn self-love.
Next, I moved on to life in a corporate financial workplace. I thought, maybe this time, I’ll get it in order. Finish school, work on a career, meet a man, get married and have two more kids.
And that was pretty much how it went...
….All while slowly losing myself and uprightness in the process. I was faced with a major struggle I didn’t yet know how to resolve.
After having my third son, I hit a major roadblock that demanded another huge life change.
I knew I couldn’t go back to the financial institution I was working for, as daycare expenses out-weighed the income. So I started my own business, to try to solve that problem - I helped others with small business start-up. Things were good and by good, I mean I was paying the bills.
But I was still missing purpose.
Soon after, I went through an intense process of spiritual transformation that had been slowly unfolding all along.
I knew it was time to do the deep work, but I lacked guidance on how how to come out the other side,
and I floundered.
I hit a lot of dead ends at first as I started poking at open wounds that were never allowed to heal. My marriage ended in divorce. Although, at this point, I was eating better, going to yoga classes and meditation circles, and felt lighter…
I still didn’t feel entirely better.
“Something’s gotta give.”
I tried it all. I adorned myself in stones, burned a lot of things, and went to healers (some of whom were not ready to be in this field of work - which stuck with me as something I would not do to others when I became a practitioner.)
I was in such a desperate state to find the healing that it caused more hurt. And that forced me to give up what wasn’t working and align myself with what needed doing.
“Sometimes you’ll laugh, sometimes you’ll cry
Life never tells us, the whens or whys
You’ll find a point when you will exhale!”
Not until the moment arrived when my purpose became happiness, and happiness became more than just unicorns and (in my mind) fairy-dusted bullshit, did I experience the exhale.
It took that change in purpose, to find the answers I had been seeking.
I know it seems like a tall order, but some of the biggest answers came during a slobbered tissue evening. I was searching and searching for the most heartfelt “Golden Buzzer” moments on YouTube. (You know the ones that make you have a good cry.)
And then there was an add, some crazy people tapping on points.
I was on a mission to research this and find the holes in the story. It all sounded like nothing I’ve heard of yet.
Why not add it to my list of attempts? What’re another forty bucks in another online course?
But it actually did work. That incidental EFT video lead me to stumble on a weekend workshop that changed my life. I learned EFT and haven’t looked back since.
Through this deep work, I finally discovered what was possible when a person can begin to like themselves again, to forgive, to love and to honour.
“She loves me, and to my amazement, I love it, knowing that she loves me.”
-She Loves Me
There she was in the mirror, staring back at me, with forgiving eyes and a loving smirk. The person I needed love from all along.
The person who had it in her the entire time.
She let go of shame, unloaded some hurt, left behind her unworthiness and loves fiercely.
Today it’s my passion to share this gift with my clients, to share with them that they are far from broken.
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